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campaignofmisinformation:

I do my absolute best to stay out of discourse, but this place
has truly gotten out of hand. The content of my character is being called into
question and I have no doubt that my name is being slandered behind the scenes.
And so I ask, “Why?”

I try my hardest to stay a positive, happy, and safe place
on here. And honestly, every single individual I’ve had the pleasure of
having a conversation with on this hellsite has been absolutely lovely. All of
you are so talented and wonderful in so many ways, and you are willing to share
your gifts with others on a daily basis. For free! That is a truly selfless
act, no matter what form of art or activism that piece of you takes.

So, when did we lose sight of the beauty of fandom?

This place used to be alive with meta, fic, art, videos, and
love. Sure, it’s always been a bit problematic in one way or another, but it
was once an oasis in which to escape the difficulties of life. In my 23 years
of fandom, it was one of the best and most supportive communities I’ve been a
part of.

What happened?

There is a lot of talk lately about bullying, and it’s important
to remember that bullying comes in many forms. Searching through someone’s posts to
pull things and use them for your own agenda to make
fun of others is bullying. Ganging up on someone because they believe something
different than you and trying to make them feel bad for it is bullying.
Anonymously sending nasty messages is bullying. Attempting to establish a
hierarchy based on your own views and forcing it on others is bullying.

BOTH SIDES of the fence are guilty of these things.

That said, Tumblr is what you make of it and perpetuating
this kind of behavior is toxic. By posting nasty anonymous messages, you are
giving these awful people a platform for their voices to be heard. If you think
they are going to learn anything from your wise words and admonishments, you’re
wrong. They are hiding behind a faceless message for a reason, and allowing
their words to see the light of day is doing nothing other than letting them
know they got to you and spurring them on to send more. Just like a real life
bully, it’s best to ignore it. Don’t let them get to you and don’t give them a
voice.

And if you think a blog doesn’t get hate just because you
can’t see it, that’s a major misconception.

WE are the ones who have the power to control the environment
this fandom lives in. WE decide whether this place is a sanctuary or an asylum.
WE are the ones who can choose to spread love and not hate.

There is no reason for this wonderful place to be an
installment of Mean Girls.

When I come to my dash, I don’t want to have to question why
I’m here. I don’t want to feel sad or hurt or hopeless. I want to talk about my
otp. I want to be surrounded by the amazing humans I know all of you are. I
want to feel supported and loved and happy. I want to drown in the things we
all love so much. And I want to unabashedly love all of you, as I always have.

So, can we try and make our way back there? 

I know we can do it.

Together.

I love you, Kelly!!!