gunningforabasementoffice:

So for people who haven’t read this far, here’s the correct phrasing of what Gillian wrote in excerpts (and where to find it):

“Infatuation, on the other hand, relies on fantasy. … Sometimes intense sexual chemistry is an indicator of infatuation – you need the sexual high to feel okay about yourself or who you’re with.  There’s a fantastic saying in twelve-step meetings: if your eyes meet across a crowded room, run like hell.  The instant chemistry can be a sign that you’ve met someone who fits your childhood template rather than someone who feels ‘right’ for healthy reasons. …  If it’s real, you’ll like the person you’re dating.  You’ll have a real friendship and want the best for him or her.  It’s at that point the journey really begins.”

(Page 230, 231, Principle 7: Love)

So.  Real friendship, liking the person when it’s real, wanting the best for each other, feeling right for healthy reasons, a journey really beginning…I don’t know how you’re interpreting it, but that sounds exactly like where David and Gillian are in their lives, especially when you remember how they’ve both talked about maturing and growing and changing.

But you want to interpret it in another way, go right ahead.  I encourage everyone to read the portion (and the book!) on their own and come to their own conclusions, based on what they’re reading, instead of what they’re being told by others.  I’ve had many asks like this, all virtually the same, and I’ve seen posts from other blogs that say practically the same thing.  

Leaving out the rest of what was said does no one any good and isn’t fair to the message that Gillian was trying to communicate.  So including the proper context and an explanation of the entire portion is the right thing to do, because it helps to understand the full meaning of what she was saying – which is obviously different than the message my ask is trying to send.

And yes, for the record, again, I believe David and Gillian are together, as a couple, and are best friends.