I guess we are hoping for Gillovny moments. Gillovny is not just sex. Gillovny is respect, Gillovny is tenderness, glances with love, touch of tenderness, words of respect, Gillovny is electricity in the air between them. .. All that exists when they are together and do not exist when they are with someone else. That’s what I hope for. Gillovny is something that will always exist. Gillovny is love.
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I am wondering, how many people who are now celebrating and cheering over Gillian’s post about the lack of female writers in The X-Files, not so long ago also wrote why “All Things” is not so great, and how they dislike it? How they never said one positive thing about “Aubrey” which was written also by a woman. Or did they ever acknowledge another woman and her ep “John Doe” which she directed? And did they ever say a word about Kim Newton, a newbie at that time, who wrote “Quagmire” and not praised Darin who was only her assistant? Where their “feminist” was then? And finally, did any of them suggested a female writer for s11 instead of shouting out their support for other male writers as Frank, Vince or David? Where this hypocrisy ends?
And Gillian had three fucking years to talk about it! She has never before brought up this subject! So why now when the list is already completed? (of course, I know why but go figure it out by yourself).
And does it really that matter if a person with a vagina and not penis will make an episode? Because I thought that the most important should be the quality but also professionalism and ability of the people who are working on the show! The X-Files was created by men and so what? I still fucking love it! This show was and still is my life! I grew up watching it. It made me a person I am today, thanks to those men! There were 208 episodes and not everyone was great but again, so what? I still wouldn’t change a thing because they’ve created the best TV show and iconic characters ever in the TV history! And I am looking forward to season 11 and I believe it will not disappoint!
Also, feminism isn’t about giving women everything only because they have vaginas! Feminism is about equality! Being a woman shouldn’t give you the right to be pushed ahead for doing nothing, to be considered a God and perfection whose no one dares to criticise (yes, I am looking at you who calls others misogynists only because they dared to say a negative thing about another woman)! I want to be respected because of my hard and good work and not because I have a vagina!
and also…
I am done with the hate towards X-Files and its creators! And I am also done with the hate towards David. Leave him out of it!
If you need to tell people that you are a lady you most probably are not.
If you need to tell them “I do what the fuck I want” then in reality you are not as free from public opinion as you thought you were. Don’t tell us just do it.
But also be prepared to be discussed and not to care about it. Why look over your shoulder and do off hand comments all the time, publicly. It’s kind of immature if you ask me.
Also for an extremely private person, the pap pictures of whom I’ve never seen in my entire life, besides from a restaurant to a car, airports etc, which were always not welcome by her. Now to get a whole spread of them obviously taken over several hours straight in a place that is known for paparazzi, half naked, with a “boyfriend”….. Excuse me, while I’m not as excited as I’m supposed to be. And more than skeptical.
And no, I wasn’t prepared and I didn’t actually know if PM and G were/are together or not. They were not exactly clear on that, and I don’t want to connect some dots in the background. Complete radio silence from Gillian isn’t really working for me as a confirmation.You say, she was promoting “The Crown” it should have been a clue. Well, she was promoting David’s book as well with “my very own David Duchovny”. And also back in the day was at the signing with Frank Spotnitz, was I supposed to believe they were dating too?
You want me to look at her social media and understand right away she is dating PM but you don’t want me to do the same with David. Weird.
What I think, it’s all a charade, PM including.
Gillian doesn’t know what she wants with her public image.
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So we have got our proof …….💔 But I can not help having trouble to relate to the proof.
-Still no touch between the two…
Perhaps that’s how she has relationships?-The man is still only separated and in many ways he is opposed to everything Gillian has publicly tried to show. She has however changed her way of dealing with her social media but she also have said several times she can not date married men and she has written a feminist book … all the contrary to what he stands for?
It does not make sense for me, but maybe love makes blind or she in this case makes an exception?Still, there is so much that does not make sense to me at all!!! The two points I have pointed out are just really things I do not understand at all in any way…?
Many people say that relationships do not define who Gillian is, but I actually disagree. Of course she is herself, but the choices we make as people and those we are together with are part of ourselves. E.g. Social constructivists believe that it is through those we are with, we are constructing our identity. That it is constantly reconstructed according to the social conditions, communication with them closest to us and arenas we move into. So my sociological and psychological sense actually believes that relationships help determine who we are. What several branches of science theory also agree on.This is obviously her choice, but I think it affects the image I personally have of her …and in my ideal and perhaps naive world, David would be better in every way…
You know, the funny thing in this fandom is that when David went to see her in Streetcar it was nothing else than a friend support. And he even went backstage… now this guy went to her event, didnt do anything closer to a boyfriend behaviour and suddenly he’s the one, the sweetest guy in the world?! WTF!!! 😒
THANK YOU. I was thinking about this this morning.
When David went, and anyone dared to say he was there as a boyfriend, the Other Side shouted us down, insulted us and mocked us for saying that. Actually, there was a lot of David-mocking happening, too, because people were taunting him and saying that he was going to sneak in wearing a disguise and hide backstage, then sneak out under a coat.
When we dared to say that he looked happy and he took his sister because he was proud to show her the amazing work Gillian does on stage, we were laughed at and told to shut up because “everyone” takes family to see friends. (Um, no. Just like I don’t kiss my male colleagues and male friends on their lips, either.)
When David went backstage, do you remember what was said? That he snuck out with his sister and that was why no one saw him leave. That there was “no reason” for him to stick around with Gillian, because he’s “nothing to her”. I could point you in the direction of who said this, but it really doesn’t matter, because it’s long gone and done. The point is, the person and her friends had loud voices and people listened, so it became a refrain that a lot of people suddenly believed.
David was actually seen going backstage by many people and never seen coming back out. He waited patiently for Gillian to sign autographs – backstage. He sat through the performance with rapt attention and looked like he loved being there. People attending caught candids of him and posted them, and he actually looked happy to be there. In the audience, numerous people described what he looked like, and it ranged from mesmerized to proud to in love to emotional. Yet, he was labelled as “just a friend being supportive”. Just “a co-worker”. And if you dared to utter a word against that, certain people were more than happy to bring all hell down upon you.
PM goes to Gillian’s event, never interacts with her, doesn’t disappear backstage with her, doesn’t leave with her, arrives early, is in the company of a woman who was probably his date or his girlfriend, looks uncomfortable to be there, can’t wait to leave, and has a face like thunder for much of the evening suddenly gets translated into: he’s there to support the love of his life! He was so proud! He was so happy! He loves his lady!
The level of double standards in this fandom is both astounding and absolutely disgusting.
The level of David-erasure, which is what I’m going to start calling it, is just as disgusting. PM is not the boyfriend. David is Gillian’s partner. And to remove him from the narrative of her life, the way some people are attempting to do, is reprehensible.
And thank you so much for bringing this up and pointing it out.
Direct from Gillian Anderson’s website! Thank you, Gillian.
This is the last thing I’ll say about it, I swear, but I just want the record to show that no matter who Gillian Anderson (or any celebrity or ANYONE, really) dates, my opinion of her/love for her/admiration for her isn’t defined by it.
Now that that’s been said, it’s possible to disagree/not enjoy the choices that someone makes and still support them and want the best for them. Guess what? I hated her second husband. I don’t know him, obviously, don’t care to, but I disliked him to hell and back and my opinion of him (which is still very negative) doesn’t make me less of a fan of her or her work or whatever. It just means that I think he was an asshole.
Y’all need to learn that loving someone, even in an abstract fan way, doesn’t mean that you have to bow down and kiss their ass and pretend to like things/people that you just don’t like. You can still love them, there’s no “fake fan”/”true fan” divide. You don’t have to trip over yourselves to prove what a worthy fan or feminist you are. It’s not that deep.
Amen to this – we may have never agreed before but today we’re on the same fucking page! Let us all be the fans and feminist we want to be!
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