It’s at the level where I wouldn’t mind at all if Gillian would slip another mediation story, or drop the “partner” word once again… You know… Just like that. Thank you very much.
Étiquette : Gillovny
I was so happy with G saying what she said about the NY man and I was sure it was D and not P. But then last night a blogger named gladlybeyondanyxperience was talking with 2moms0fucks and she said that she heard D will come out with his gf soon bc he started dating and it isn’t G bc G is in love with P. I don’t know what to think. I try not to see the posts like these but then I see it and I drop it again. You don’t have to post this but maybe answer w someone elses ask if you want? Thnx.
All I can tell you, is that no one here knows anything about Gillian or David’s personal life. At least, not enough to know where and when and with whom they’re going to come out or not. Stick to what you believe, draw your own conclusions based on what you see hear and read, and most of all, trust no one.
Hi! Where can I watch the thing where Gillian’s talks about her NY friend? I see someone saying it brought tears to her eyes? Thank you so much!
I so wish there was a public video of this moment somewhere! I know it exists, I know someone has it, and I’m praying everyday for this person to share it!!!
I have like 8,637 questions and all of them have to do with Gillovny.
I know… Me too… Just wait a little bit. Some time, they’ll co-write a book and explain everything. (and call it “Us: a manifesto for Gillovny everywhere”, probably.)
People have tried to de-cute the meditation story because they say that of course a friend will give you fresh towels because why would they give you used towels? I don’t think they realize that they’re making a great point but not in the way they think they are. Yeah, a FRIEND will give you fresh towels and that’s not remarkable. You know when it’s rare to be given fresh towels because of familiarity and closeness? When you’re staying with your significant other.
What strikes me the most in the nyc friend story, it’s that it brings tears to her eyes. Imo, you don’t cry over your gay friend or new boyfriend bringing you flowers, hanging fresh towels and meditating with you, unless you’re on a verge of breakdown. But when you’ve known someone for over 20 years and the feelings are still fresh, I can see how it could make one teary-eyed (and lead to fantastic sex – sorry, I couldn’t resist that one!)
Don’t be sorry, how one’s mind wouldn’t go there anyway? At this point, and knowing how much meditation is important in both David and Gillian’s life, no one will make me believe this friend was anyone else than him.
Hello JHH! So GA is already in the states I assume… do you think she woke up this morning with fresh flowers and her NY « friend » breathing gently beside her? 😉
I hope she took her free Sunday to relax and share a nice meditation time with her adult friend before she has to run everywhere again tomorrow.
Every time Gillian mentioned meditation during wow panel, I was imagining her with David. Did she turn meditation into something dirty only to me?
To me too! You’re not alone!
If you believe that GA and DD are together in the romantic sense, you might want to read the love and relationships chapter of GA’s book. She talks about chemical attraction being toxic, and that if you have instant chemistry with someone you should probably run in the opposite direction as it’s likely that person won’t turn out to be good for you.
So for people who haven’t read this far, here’s the correct phrasing of what Gillian wrote in excerpts (and where to find it):
“Infatuation, on the other hand, relies on fantasy. … Sometimes intense sexual chemistry is an indicator of infatuation – you need the sexual high to feel okay about yourself or who you’re with. There’s a fantastic saying in twelve-step meetings: if your eyes meet across a crowded room, run like hell. The instant chemistry can be a sign that you’ve met someone who fits your childhood template rather than someone who feels ‘right’ for healthy reasons. … If it’s real, you’ll like the person you’re dating. You’ll have a real friendship and want the best for him or her. It’s at that point the journey really begins.”
(Page 230, 231, Principle 7: Love)
So. Real friendship, liking the person when it’s real, wanting the best for each other, feeling right for healthy reasons, a journey really beginning…I don’t know how you’re interpreting it, but that sounds exactly like where David and Gillian are in their lives, especially when you remember how they’ve both talked about maturing and growing and changing.
But you want to interpret it in another way, go right ahead. I encourage everyone to read the portion (and the book!) on their own and come to their own conclusions, based on what they’re reading, instead of what they’re being told by others. I’ve had many asks like this, all virtually the same, and I’ve seen posts from other blogs that say practically the same thing.
Leaving out the rest of what was said does no one any good and isn’t fair to the message that Gillian was trying to communicate. So including the proper context and an explanation of the entire portion is the right thing to do, because it helps to understand the full meaning of what she was saying – which is obviously different than the message my ask is trying to send.
And yes, for the record, again, I believe David and Gillian are together, as a couple, and are best friends.
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