Okay hugs Mango. U don’t have to publish this but it is frustrating to see you try to be in the « middle » when the truth is people in crazy gillovny land say really awful things. I don’t understand why you don’t speak up, becuz they all follow you. Yu can talk about middle ground and stuff but it just seems like hypocrisy. And yes you do worry about your follower # u were bragging about it before.

mangokiwitropicalswirl:

It’s okay, I’ll publish. Let’s talk this out.

I feel like I’ve been pretty clear about where I’ve landed on things as regards Gillovny. (“Read my press, babe”). I’ve written a couple rambling essay-things about all this, for goodness sake! Just the other day, I pointed out what ALL of us having in common, saying, “We are all in agreement that we want season 11 to rock our socks off. We all hope for a continued enjoyable incarnation of adult friendship between David and Gillian. We all feel disgusted and terrible that Gillian was exposed in the manner that she was.”

Beyond acknowledging these things, and behaving kindly, what would you have me do, Anon? Should I police the thoughts of everyone who you deem “crazy”? If someone confides some feelings they’re feeling IN PRIVATE should I “out” them for scrutiny and shaming? Should it not be allowed anywhere within the realm of Tumblr for a person to have critical thoughts about Gillian or David? One thing I feel we need to learn, or at least which can be practiced, is the fact that we can listen to others without joining in negative behavior. We can hold more than one idea in our mind at a time.

Where DO you draw the line? Behavior. Which I’ve tried to delineate as: the sending of aggressive or abusive messages, whether anonymously or through chats. The tagging of actors, their partners or children in ways that expose them to ridicule or abuse. (Or frankly, tagging them AT ALL). And finally, the unauthorized exposure of privately shared conversations. The minute somebody is rumor-spreading or trash talking another blog is when I unfollow. But I’ve seen very little of this kind of behavior, tbh. And you won’t find me telling people they don’t have a right to feel in certain ways.