winterskylorein:

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justholdinghandsok:

There’s always been something wrong with Gillian. And I’m sure it is the exact reason why we all started to love her. Because she has flaws, she’s human. It used to be adorably wrong when she was young, then worryingly and alarmingly wrong for a period of time, and it became adorable again. until last year. When the worrisome phase started again. It’s a pattern. Gillian has a lot of patterns. And I agree with you that it starts to get alarming again. I haven’t said anything about her loss of weight because Gillian has always been wavering in terms of weight and that’s okay. Who am I to juge her on her weight? But then a friend of mine showed me a comparison between Gillian now and Gillian 6 months ago. That was scary. Literally scary. 
I also noticed what you said about her eyes and her behavior during the Walk Of Fame. That didn’t strike me when I watched it first. I guess I was focused on the speakers and on the show itself, more than on Gillian’s behavior while she was listening. But I rewatched it yesterday with a colleague and she told me exactly what you just said. She goes blank sometimes. Mentally blank. And it really shows. Then she comes back, laughs, and goes blank again. She also looks incredibly sad and lost during the photoshoot. And suddenly she lights up for a few second and the second after, she’s lost again. 

I don’t know if all of this is a popular opinion or not, I know I’m not the only one who think this way, I know people fear to voice this kind of opinion lately because apparently being worried about someone’s weight loss is called body shaming and I guess being worried about someone’s state of mind will be called what? Mental shaming? Whatever. I love Gillian, and this is not about Gillovny, or Gorgan anymore. This is about her health and no one here can make me believe Gillian Anderson is healthy, happy and in a good place right now. In my opinion, she jumped back fully in her self-destructive pattern. 
So you can call me out, sue me, bully me, yell at me for saying that, I don’t care. She is not okay. If you can’t see it, if you refuse to see it, take a deep breath and think that you could actually encourage her in this harmful behavior. It’s Gillian. She’s like that. We all know that, we know her past or at least the fractions of it that she agreed to share with us and in my opinion, it’s coming back full force right now. 
There’s nothing we can do to help her, anon. I don’t think so. It’s not our place, we’re not her family, nor her friends. She has a lot of people around her, I’m sure she has a lot of people around her who love her. From my small fan point of view, I see at least 3 people who can and who probably had already helped her going through this kind of phase. Piper, Mark and David. I hope all 3 are at work, and I hope it becomes adorably wrong again soon.

I am genuinely interested to understand what makes you write two whole paragraphs about a person you only seem to loathe and criticise except when she ends up posting tweets and content you approve of.

“She is not okay. If you can’t see it, if you refuse to see it, take a deep breath and think that you could actually encourage her in this harmful behavior.”

My question is: How dare you? Who are you to pass judgements like this? You mention not knowing her personally yet you allow yourself to decide how she is doing in her personal life and start some guru preaching about how she isn’t healthy and needs help.

I’m seriously, genuinely asking: do you not realise how damaging this sort of speech is? Do you not realise how calling someone self-destructive is taking away from people on this website and in life who do not have Hollywood as a platform but who actually NEED help?

Does this image you’re trying to project of Gillian is really what it is or simply you projecting that you are upset? See, two can play at this mind reading, behaviour judgment game. It’s mean, pointless and unhealthy.

I know you will most likely laugh this post off and think this is yet again some “two-sides” agenda, some bullying you are the victim of. But you are the bully in this. You are painting Gillian Anderson as a victim who needs to be saved while you keep posting the usual vitriol about her which made your blog brand for the past year. 

Do you really believe this is a way to help anyone? Do you think this is loving someone, shaming them then posting your concerns about them? Why you need to be doing this, I can only guess. But I shan’t do it publicly because we don’t know each other, just like we both do not know Gillian. Gillian looks happy and I wish this was enough for you to feel happy too.

See, this is why this whole social media thing is absolutely nuts.

You say she looks happy. Someone else says she doesn’t. Now, whether she’s happy, we don’t know. You can’t tell if she is indeed happier than two years ago, and you also can’t if she isn’t. It’s a simple observation, but it’s subjective. Whatever triggered me to think that she must’ve been very happy two years ago, those things are almost completely gone now. Do I want this? No. Do I want all her best? Hell yes. Do I know anything else than what I feel and see? No.

But yes, sometimes I want to talk about it. Not just in private because others who see it very differently just can’t live with my feelings. And talk them down. That’s what I’m sick of, really.

Support is where you practice it, in any possible way. There shouldn’t be a filter for anything that isn’t illegal, in my opinion.

Because in the end, it doesn’t really matter what you think, because it could all be wrong. What is being discussed on here doesn’t change a thing. No blog will make David married to her and the father of all her children, no blog will make them secret lovers, no blog will make her unhappy or happy, no blog can paint the most beautiful picture of her and Peter with some manips and make it all true, nor can it prevent them from splitting up at any point. It just doesn’t matter to her, but it matters to us on here.

Whatever you feel, you should be free to express. ‘Shaming’ is something that’s been thrown around a lot – believe me, I’ve been to a lot of ED-clinics in my life, and it’s ridiculous. And it’s really just a matter of your own mindset, it’s not something one person, or a society can simply define.

And the very unfortunate thing about the word shaming is that it limits you endlessly. You and your feelings. Which want to be expressed at some point.

Yes, I want to express I’m worried. Something tells ME that something’s not right. I don’t know why, you don’t know why. I also don’t know why you think what you think, but since you think she is happy, I can only HOPE that I am the one who is wrong here.

I didn’t want to reblog this post and just let it lives its life with people sharing opinions on here bud how can I not reblog this last comment? Thank you for this. I bow down for you, girl.