It’s okay, I’ll publish. Let’s talk this out.
I feel like I’ve been pretty clear about where I’ve landed on things as regards Gillovny. (“Read my press, babe”). I’ve written a couple rambling essay-things about all this, for goodness sake! Just the other day, I pointed out what ALL of us having in common, saying, “We are all in agreement that we want season 11 to rock our socks off. We all hope for a continued enjoyable incarnation of adult friendship between David and Gillian. We all feel disgusted and terrible that Gillian was exposed in the manner that she was.”
Beyond acknowledging these things, and behaving kindly, what would you have me do, Anon? Should I police the thoughts of everyone who you deem “crazy”? If someone confides some feelings they’re feeling IN PRIVATE should I “out” them for scrutiny and shaming? Should it not be allowed anywhere within the realm of Tumblr for a person to have critical thoughts about Gillian or David? One thing I feel we need to learn, or at least which can be practiced, is the fact that we can listen to others without joining in negative behavior. We can hold more than one idea in our mind at a time.
Where DO you draw the line? Behavior. Which I’ve tried to delineate as: the sending of aggressive or abusive messages, whether anonymously or through chats. The tagging of actors, their partners or children in ways that expose them to ridicule or abuse. (Or frankly, tagging them AT ALL). And finally, the unauthorized exposure of privately shared conversations. The minute somebody is rumor-spreading or trash talking another blog is when I unfollow. But I’ve seen very little of this kind of behavior, tbh. And you won’t find me telling people they don’t have a right to feel in certain ways.
I do not agree with you anon, and I do not want you or anyone else in any way to talk badly about the people I care about in here.. !!!!!! You have openly not understood what is going on! Gillovny is not only about GA and DD romantic, but it’s about the dynamics, the atmosphere and the connection they create when they are together. The connection  they have is desirable.
I have not seen anybody rip GA apart.. People have ripped the statements and what she has said and done apart. Things she herself said and acted on is obvious not important now. Thats what people and myself have ripped apart.  It’s something completely different. When you choose to say such things and act on those things, you must also stand by them. Or, confess that you have made an error, things have changed, time is different or similar. GA has chosen not to comment on anything, which is fine. But it is expected that people feel manipulated to believe something about a person which turns out not to be true. All that GA has said, stood for and so on is now gone and people are left with a whole other person and do not know who she really is. Is it not normal that people analyze, comment, and are disappoint about it? She has self-promoted herself in relation to how she either thinks it’s best she appeared or how she wished she was. That’s the only conclusion we can make when she’s a completely different person now. GA live off her fans and the products we buy from her (her film roles, TV shows, posters, things she stands for and so on), its her work, but it’s as she has forgotten it.Â
And by the way, the only childish behavior I see in here is the people who create fake blogs about someone they do not know. People who support GA in everything she does, even when she does wrong things. People without their own opinions. People who are not able to see that they are not friends with GA and are not her personal tumblr police. People who think it’s okay and in no way devastating that a man pulls a woman’s bikini briefs down and public shows her pussy at a public pool. People who think it’s nice that others have changed so much and suddenly no more is themselves. People who exhibit other tumblrs on newspaper’s website.    People who take screenshots of someone else’s private chat and make blogs about this and post it on twitter and tag GA. People who come as anon in someone else’s ask and criticize and exhibit other blogs instead of publicly viewing their opinions. Â
Oh, babe, I understand perfectly well. Trust me. Even when Gillian was with Mark, Julian, Rodney & Clyde I was still Gillovny because I was celebrating 2 beautiful people who know & adore each other. (Pretty sure I posted about that a couple months ago, btw) My point is that these specific people who are now jumping back on the Gillovny train are the ones who shamed people for even celebrating David & Gillians friendship. These are the same people who have attacked David & said that he is “bad” and “toxic” for Gillian. These are the same people who say that Gillian is only doing more XF because of the money or she was “pressured” into it, not like she’s a grown ass fucking woman who can make her own decisions in life. Those are the people that I’m talking about.
Remember when Gillian shared that photo on Twitter and Instagram … that “GILLIAN DOING WHATEVER THE FUCK SHE WANTS IN 2017″ photo and everyone in this fandom was all over it, some going so far as to say it was some message to the fandom to leave her alone and to let her make her own decisions?Â
I find it funny how some of those same people are now shopping around the idea that Gillian doesn’t actually want to do more X-Files, is being pressured into it, is only doing it for the money, or that it’s all fake.
I guess “GILLIAN DOING WHATEVER THE FUCK SHE WANTS IN 2017″ only applies to some things, not all.Â
I have been trying to ignore all this but silencing and policing is what some people want and I will never apologize for defending David. If you have to bring up all the stuff of 1998 David, who frankly I find many bloggers more insufferable than and who doesn’t even represent David anymore, to make someone seem so much better than that is not a real convincing argument for said person. And all of a sudden saying things like how could she even want David in her life anymore because he made a bad joke. Around the time he first separated and months before he went into rehab Gillian made a joke about being frightened by how many women he had been with. It was off the cuff but it was awkward as hell, shaming and kind of mean but it was also just a bad joke. I mean saying things like I have no doubt that David ended up with one of those girls in the hallway because you can only seem to view him in that way despite not knowing anything about the situation or his issues. You can forgive Gillian’s memory but he was dating Perry Reeves at the time and did so until 1994. People who have no clue but think they do seems to be the theme around here lately. Everyone banking on The X-Files not coming back because Gillian was not interested or enthused enough and didn’t care about working with David anymore must be eating crow about now. They both have said a major reason to come back is to work together again and why should it be any different this time around? No matter who Gillian or David are with or ever dating, they have both said they love each other and are important in each others lives and always will be, whether people like it or not. Around here the number one source of proof that David and Gillian hated each other is that out of context picture from the 1998 golden globes but has anyone actually watched the clip? Photos and gifs don’t tell the whole story and I wish this place could get in the habit of always providing a source.
Can everyone leave David Duchovny alone with things he said and done in the 90s? He acknowledged them, he talked about them, and he learnt from them. Now, he is a fucking amazing, kind and humble guy who is out there doing his best. Maybe you could learn some kindness and acceptance from him.
If you don’t agree with the above, please block me, unfollow me do whatever you need to do. David Duchovny is pure and cute and I’m here to say this out loud.
I was pressured into posting another chapter before London ( @justholdinghandsok@becksndot5@sunshinetoday … cough), so here it is 🙂 I hope that after London, I find my way back into my old groove again 🙂 So, I hope you enjoy this chapter, and if you’re in London this weekend, please come and say hi! I would love to meet all of you!
Just Holding Hands 